My hubby and I have always been like two peas in a pod, and that’s still the case today, but having a child was like a bomb exploding in our lives. I love him more than ever, but let’s be honest, my attention went from 100% on him to mostly on my crazy toddler who hollers for “mama” and wraps her arms around my leg. (My husband hasn’t stooped that low to get my attention. Yet.)
But I try to be intentional about showing my husband I care. I’ll send him random text messages telling him what a rockstar he is, or get him a surprise gift or compliment him. The only problem with all of those things (nice words and gifts) is that those are my love languages, not his. I don’t know if you’ve heard of this love language thing. The 5 Love Languages is the title of a book written by Gary Chapman that says we each feel love in different ways. The 5 love categories are words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time and physical touch.
Unfortunately for me, my husband’s love language is physical touch. I am not a toucher. Hugs are fine and I will hold hands for a few minutes, but I’m just not a touchy-feely person. But that’s the way he feels loved, so I have to get better at it, even if it’s torturous for me. (Except for foot rubs. I don’t like feet to begin with. Add touch to that and I’m out.)
If you don’t know what your love language is, take the free quiz here. And talk your husband into taking it too.
So you made/coerced your husband into taking the quiz, and you know his love language. Now what? Check out these ways you can show your husband love based on his love language.
And if you’re like me and find your husband’s love language to be really difficult for you, start small and work your way up.
Did you take the quiz and discover any surprises? Were your and your husband’s love languages what you expected? Anyone else have a hard time speaking their spouse’s language?